“What’s the craziest thing you have done during sex”?
“Anal sex” was Jessica’s response.
“Anal sex?!”, this writer asked with a look of surprise.
“Yes anal sex. I remember the first time like it was yesterday. I had seen a few porn videos of anal sex but had a misconstrued opinion of it. I felt it was a taboo. Why would someone have sex with an organ designed for excretion of faeces. Is it hygienic? That’s should only gay men. I swore never to try it. Never.
“Then I was having sex with my boyfriend and I think I was tipsy and didn’t know when his dick ended up in my asshole. It was so painful but in midst of that pain was a kind of pleasure I had never experienced. I asked him to stop, let him not see me as a slut. We had sex a couple of times afterwards but I didn’t feel that pleasure I felt on my asshole.”
“I did my research on anal sex and saw the risks but also the benefits and how to do it properly. I got a lubricant and the next we had sex, I told him to apply the lubricant and try going in through my asshole. At first he thought I had gone nuts but I assured him I was okay. He wasn’t so big down there so I felt he was the right person to try anal sex with.”
“At first it was damn painful and I asked him to stop a couple of times. l love pain and pleasure at just about the right mix but the pain at first was too much but with time, patience and enough lubrication, the pain subsided and the pleasure is simply mind-blowing.”
“I see anal sex like drinking a cup of coffee. Some like black coffee which does not contain any added ingredients such as milk, creamer or sugar while some like it sweetened. Anal sex is black coffee. If you like a bit of erotic pain during sex like being spanked, being choked, being slapped, being handcuffed, the whole BDSM repertoire then
black coffee anal sex is for you. If you aren’t the “pain type” then stick to your sweetened coffee normal sex.”
Backdoor entry is a deal-breaker for many women — a no-way, no-how, entirely off-limits scenario. Still, more than a third of women (36.3%) surveyed in a recent study from the Journal of Sexual Medicine reported having tried anal sex; 13.2% reported having had it within the past 12 months.
According to Wikipedia, anal sex is generally the insertion and thrusting of the erect penis into a person’s anus for sexual pleasure. Other forms of anal sex includes fingering, use of sex toys for anal penetration or oral sex performed on the anus (anilingus).
When Sophia was asked her opinion on anal sex, she said, “I like anilingus. I really enjoy it when my man licks my asshole. It gives me sexual pleasures I don’t experience with vaginal stimulation. However, I have tried anal sex before and it’s mad painful but it feels like something I might try in the future”.
Emmanuella said, “I have to say, I have the best orgasms with anal sex. But the conservative part of me says it’s not a good idea. I always feel nervous, and it hurts, but the orgasms are beyond awesome! Ah, the conundrum.”
Vivian’s view on anal sex is “It’s definitely something that I always wanted to try, but also felt embarrassed and actually a bit ashamed, as it seemed really ‘dirty’ and ‘taboo.’ I think that’s the porn industry’s influence, as a lot of people associate anal sex with porn, and basically it sounds slutty.
“But once I met my soon-to-be husband, we decided to give it a go, and I loved it. I felt safe with him, and I also know he respects me, which made it much easier to take that leap. It’s usually uncomfortable at first, and sometimes even a bit painful, but having a few glasses of wine beforehand helps me to relax.
“I prefer standard intercourse over anal sex any day. But it’s a great way to spice things up in the bedroom.”
Nicky on the other hand said, “I think there is still a stigma attached to anal sex and those who enjoy it. I think anal sex is great when done properly, though it isn’t for everybody.”
Some people attach spiritual connotations to decry anal sex. Some say anal sex is animalistic and the Bible is against such. Some go as far as citing the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah as a case study because they engaged in “taboo” sexual adventure. Someone even said such sexual behavior is energized by the spirit of the Antichrist.
Then some say medically, it’s unhealthy and unnatural.
Now that’s debunk some of these myths.
For starters, if anal sex is unnatural, is oral sex natural? The anus isn’t designed for sex but is the mouth and tongue designed to be stuck around a man’s penis or the inside of a woman’s vagina?
The same vagina that ejects menstrual blood monthly which is composed of blood, old parts of uterine tissue, cells from the mucus lining of the vagina and bacteria?
The same vagina that emits a foul odor when not properly taken care of.
The same dick that most men don’t wash properly or promiscuously stick around in anything that moves or wear pants/boxers that go unwashed for days?
So anal sex isn’t natural but oral sex is. Don’t be a hypocrite.
Anal sex is unhealthy and could lead to infections, right?! I agree!
How about oral sex? Is it healthy and free from infections?
You are aware that genital herpes can be transmitted through vaginal, anal and oral contact with someone who has herpes?
Are you aware that gonorrhea can also be transmitted through vaginal, anal and oral contact with someone who has the disease?
Syphilis also can be transmitted through vaginal, anal and oral contact with someone who has syphilis sores?
So if anal sex can lead to transmission of disease, so can oral sex.
Anal sex is painful. True!!
Was any lady disvirgined in the womb?
Almost all ladies experience pain during vaginal sex for the first time. Does that mean they never had sex again? Pain initially but as soon as the vaginal walls are expanded and relax, the pain subsides to pleasure. Same with anal sex. Pain isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Ask people who engage in BDSM.
The vagina has natural lubrication but the anus doesn’t. True!!
However, what people who have vaginal intercourse know is that most times the vagina dries up during sex making sex painful which leads to the introduction of artificial lubrication like KY jelly and the likes. So why can’t KY jelly be used for anal sex from the get go?
If I had to sum up my take on anal sex, it would be this:
1. Only do it when you really want to, with someone you really love and trust.
2. Never force yourself into anything. If it hurts, stop.
3. Use a lot of lubricant, and go slow.
4. A glass of wine helps to relax and take the edge off.
5. Have fun! There is no shame in trying things with your partner other than just standard sex.
People will always talk!!!!!
Some say masturbation is a bad thing.
Some say oral sex is not right.
Some even say doggy styles or any adventitious sex position is not right in the sight of God.
What’s my take on anal sex?
Do you and f*** what anyone says.
What are the dangers of anal sex?
Find out by reading “Why Anal Sex is a Forbidden Fruit”. Click HERE.
1. Oral sex and sexually transmitted infections for Sexwise.
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2. Does Anal Hurt? What to Know for Your First Time by Adrienne Santos-Longhurst for Healthline. Click HERE to read.
3. A Beginner’s Guide to Anal Sex by Grant Stoddard for VICE.
Click HERE to read.
4. 8 Women Share Their True Feelings On Anal Sex by Charyn Pfeuffer for Refinery29.
Click HERE to read.
5. Anilingus by Wikipedia. Click HERE to read.