Please Ask for HELP


Ask for help advice or reminder - handwriting on a sticky note a

A few months back, around 1 am in the morning, we heard a loud shout of “FIRE FIRE” from my neighbor’s flat. Everyone rushed out. Her generator set was on fire and there was a gas cooker just beside the burning generator. We had to do something. I rushed to my car, popped the boot open and retrieved my fire extinguisher while the rest rushed to get their hands on buckets of water while some carried sand. Anything to help.

It took a “community” effort but the fire was eventually put out without much damage done.

The lady in question whose house was almost engulfed in flame was home with two kids while her husband was away on a business trip.

Now let’s imagine.


Let’s imagine she felt she could fight the fire herself. She believed her God would send angels from Heaven to quench the fire. She felt she doesn’t need anyone to help her that she was more than capable of putting off the flames herself.

What do you think would have happened to her?

I stand corrected but I believe the most selfish people aren’t the ones who refuse to share their joy/money/property but those who refuse to share their pain with others. Many people have this saying, “I didn’t want to bother you that’s why I didn’t tell you I was in pain”. That statement sounds selfless but nothing could be more selfish.

It’s time we stop this selfishness disguised as selflessness and reach out to people for help. Ask for help. Even Jesus couldn’t carry his cross all by Himself, Simon from Cyrene helped Him along the way (Matthew 27:32). Don’t suffer in silence because you don’t want to bother people. Bother them if it helps you.


On the 18th of January 2015, a popular Nigerian actor, Muna Obiekwe died from kidney disease. In the words of Helen Paul, a popular comedian, singer and actress from Nigeria in an article for the Independent titled, “Lessons From Muna Obiekwe’s Death” wrote and I quote, “The news of the death of this talented actor came to me as a huge shock because I, like many other practitioners, were never aware he had a common headache, let alone kidney related ailment! I wouldn’t blame Muna for keeping his pains away from his colleagues and the media until death snatched him away. Perhaps, if he had opened up, well-meaning Nigerians could have rallied round to save his life. Well, God knows best.”


Remember, keeping the pain to yourself is selfishness not selflessness. Know the difference. Ask for help today.


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