I heard her screams from across the house and knew I had to swing into action and do something.
I was barely 17 or so and my little and only sister was experiencing the first visit of those bloody monsters and her discomfort was keeping me up all night.
Mum wasn’t home. Dad traveled. Kid brother was in school. As her big brother and only one at home, I had to act fast. I placed a call to a female friend who directed me to make her watery noddles with plenty pepper. I dashed into the kitchen, prepared as instructed and took it to her war-zone-looking room. Struggled to get her upright to eat the meal but surprisingly, the noodles solution worked, the pain subsided and she got some sleep (and so did I).
Over a decade after that experience, the word “period” gives me the chills because I am hemophobic (fear of blood) and contaminated blood at that. Worst!!!!!
I grew up with a distaste for anything pads, periods or menses but one thing caught my ‘inquisitivity’. How do athletes compete, dancers dance, swimmers swim, runners run, joggers jog while on their period? My curiosity led me to the discovery of tampons.
Sanitary pads are usually placed on the panty to absorb the flow of blood from the vaginal opening. Tampons on the other hand are designed to be inserted into the vagina during menstruation and absorb the flow even before it leaves the vaginal opening.
Due to ignorance, female folks especially in Africa have neglected the use of tampons in favor of sanitary pads for the following 5 myths:
1. “Sanitary pads are readily available while tampons are scarce”. This could be true but no one sees her period by surprise (maybe pregnancy but not your flow). Every lady should be able to calculate her flow and plan ahead. Buy, keep, calculate and use when due.
2. “I can’t pee if I have a tampon in me”. Some think one would have to remove the tampons to pee with the erroneous idea that pee and menstual blood comes out from the same exit. Wrong! The blood comes out from the main exit (vaginal opening) while pee comes out from the urethra opening. A tiny opening just above the vaginal opening.
3. “How can I stick something inside me for a whole day”.
The fear of sticking stuff in there scares some ladies. It might get lost inside. Lol. The tampons have a rope that you can use to pull the tampon out after the day’s use. Fear not…lol.
4. “It will make my vagina loose”.
Tampons are thin and if a baby that escape your hole and it will go back to it’s original size, how come a little tampon? Fear not.
5. “I am a virgin and the tampons could break my hymen”.
Well, this is still up to debate because anything inserted into the vagina of a virgin has the tendency of breaking the hymen but it is unlikely. The hymen is a stretchy tissue that surrounds or partially covers the vaginal opening.
When you insert a tampon for the first time, there are 3 scenarios that can happen:
- Most likely the tampon will pass through without breaking your hymen.
- Another likely scenario is your hymen will stretch to allow the tampon to pass through.
- Unlikely scenario: Your hymen covers more of your vaginal opening and tears when you insert a tampon.
There are actually many normal every day activities that can tear your hymen including gymnastics, bike riding, horse back riding, exercise, and self-exploration. For some girls, the hymen is very stretchy and can even remain in tact after the first instance of intercourse.
So even if your hymen tears (very unlikely) – you are still a virgin. For more on the hymen, check the next article titled “The Dollar Price of Virginity in Africa”. (It’s still in my head so be patient till I pen it down…lol).
My girlfriend (ex now) decided against coming to sleep over because she was afraid her heavy flow would soil my bed. A thought a user of tampons wouldn’t bother about because tampons don’t move or shift like pads and absorb all they come in contact with. A girl seeing her period and wearing a tampon can even go out without undies.
Ladies, please it’s time to phase out sanitary pads, it’s the 21 century for crying out loud. Comon!!!!! Please ALWAYS use a tampon. Pun intended.
Message from concerned gentleman.
Can you lose your virginity to a tampon? by The Period Blog. Click HERE to read
Picture Credit: Nsikak Effiong