In this tradition of ours where a woman’s identity is tied to that of her husband (she retires her surname after marriage and takes up his). The same tradition where a married woman gets more respect and recognition than her unmarried and sometimes more successful counterpart. The tradition where single ladies are getting older by the day and the men are waiting even longer to get married. This tradition of ours tells a woman that she hasn’t achieved anything unless she is are married. But looks down on her for making the first move, proposing, sponsoring her wedding, buying the rings or building the family house.
It is important to note that in almost every society there is a higher population of women than men. As a result of many factors including war or violence related deaths among men, longer life expectancy among women and generally more female children than their male counterparts.
Men have been touted as serial cheats. The types that find it difficult to have, keep and remain faithful to one woman.
A woman’s biological clock which makes it imperative for her to get married before a certain age in order to bear children.
Men of this generation are constantly getting married late as compared to past generations due to financial constraints (other reasons abide).
The Bible pointed out that “in that day so few men will be left that seven women will fight for each man, saying, “Let us all marry you! We will provide our own food and clothing. Only let us take your name so we won’t be mocked as old maids.” (Isaiah 4:1).
So if the Bible made such a profound statement and judging by the five different view points from above, why are Christian men still mandated to marry just one wife?
I have always pondered if the one man, one woman rule in Christian marriages was realistically still relevant in our modern society.
From the other side of the religious divide, Muslim men are permitted by Islam to marry as much as four wives. So a Muslim man who feels he needs more than one woman in his life decides to marry four wives, care for them, protects them, loves them.
On the other hand, a Christian man has one wife and loves and cares for her but has other girlfriends who he also loves and cares for. Uses and dumps them at will with the excuse that he loves his wife and can’t marry another woman. Which is a better option?
I have always wondered if a man was better off with two loving wives, women who love and care for each other (if that is ever possible). Living in a home where one woman works while the other baby sits their children (each woman’s children) and when the other works, the first take over mummy duties. A home where a woman is not inconvenienced by her husband’s sexual advances because she has a co-wife who would take over when she is tired or not in the mood (as many women say). A home where she doesn’t have to cook all the time because her co-wife would readily help out. A home where she knows the identity of the other woman sleeping with her man (her co-wife).
Has anyone ever wondered why Islam permitted Polygamy?
If the above were their reasons Islam permits men marrying multiple women then what’s Christianity’s excuse for restricting men to just one wife?
Come to think of it many strong men of God in the Bible married multiple women from David to Solomon and even Jacob. Does it mean that Christianity is oblivious of the higher rate of women than men? Aren’t they aware that these so called married men go about sleeping with unmarried women behind their wive’s backs? Have they forgotten that the time frame attached to woman’s biological clock means she has to get married before a particular time in order to be able to bear children? Are they also blind to fact that single girls have refused to accept their single status continually advertise themselves to married men? Haven’t they heard of sugar daddy’s and runs girls whose clients are mainly married men?
Aren’t they also aware that the majority of men who sleep around are the so called Christian men?
So why haven’t they allowed polygamy?
ONE REASON: The Bible preaches against it as evidenced in various chapters of the Good Book.
Passages like 1 Timothy 3:2, 1 Corinthians 7:2, Deuteronomy 17:17, Exodus 21:10, 1 Kings 11:3, Deuteronomy 21:15-17, 1 Timothy 3:12, Ephesians 5:31, Matthew 5:32, Matthew 19:3-20, Proverbs 18:22, Ephesians 5:33 and Isaiah 4:1.
So what’s my take on the whole conundrum? It’s difficult on its own to handle one woman, let alone two or more. Disaster waiting to happen. Ask King Solomon and his bullion van of women. I will pass, thank you. One man, one woman please.
Thanks for joining in my thoughts about Christianity and polygamy. I also apologize for the premature and annoying ending. These are my thoughts not yours so I can think my thoughts however I think fit (pun intended). Now go and think your own.