This is a continuation of the series, READ:
Part 1: Respect
PART 2: SPACE
This is by far the most important thing you will ever learn about a man. Ladies I want you to pay full attention because if you miss this point, then you will forever have issues with your man. We discovered in the first part of the series that men and women are totally different beings. A woman usually says one thing while meaning another thing. When a woman says she doesn’t want to talk to anybody, she actually means the opposite and usually does want to talk to someone. A lot of women will say the same sentence twice and mean completely different things in each instance. You’ve probably said you don’t want to talk to anybody and meant it at least once. Guys on the other hand usually mean what they say and say what they mean, no guessing or mind reading needed.
Guys sometimes say what they don’t necessarily mean like, “your hair looks beautiful” or “you look stunning in that dress” to make a lady happy or appease her. BUT when a man says he wants to be left alone, he really wants to be left alone.
Men, unlike women, sometimes need space and if you invade that space, it only irritates and upsets them. You should understand that a man does not open up as easily as a women do. When a man says he needs to be alone, he most definitely means it. To rejuvenate and refresh, men retreat into a quiet place ‘physically’ and ‘mentally’. With no interference from others, a man needing quiet time will quite likely emerge ready to tackle anything! Being patient with the process.
Your man tells you to “leave him alone” because he has stuff he wants to sort out. You either feel he doesn’t mean it or he’s hiding something or you try to help him out. As a result, you disturb him with your excessive calls and pings. He retreats into his shell and doesn’t pick your calls or answer your pings (or anyone else’s). This leaves you feeling hurt, rejected, and your asking your self questions like “what’s the matter?”, “is he cheating?”, “why isn’t he letting me in?”, “doesn’t he want my help?” and you feel like your losing the one you love. The truth?
He told you to leave him alone initially, didn’t he? When your man tells you to leave him alone, LEAVE HIM ALONE!
He is telling you this because he doesn’t even know how he feels. He needs time to process his thoughts and feelings. Men have emotions too and no, it is not that easy for them to talk about them, so don’t pressure him. If you do, he might end up saying something he will regret and you will end up losing him. When a man insists on being left alone, don’t take it personal. When your man is ready to talk, he will come to you. And when he does, don’t push him away or judge him. Just listen to him and try to understand him. If he doesn’t come around….then move on. Men are not much on talking or showing emotion, it makes them look weak and vulnerable. If you insist on making him talk, he will just get mad, and so will you.
It has been claimed that women speak about 20,000 words a day – 13,000 more than the average man. A study conducted by US researchers suggested that higher level of protein called the Foxp2, known as the ‘language protein’ are found in the female brain. This is the reason an average woman tends to talk more than the average man (check Mail Online Science for more info).
When a woman has issues, she loves discussing it with a listening ear while men tend to retreat into their quiet space to reason things out.
In conclusion, Proverbs 21:9 said something very profound, it said “It is better to live on the corner of a roof than to share a house with a nagging wife” (Holman Christian Standard Bible). Don’t nag on a man, give him his free space to do what he loves like letting him watch his football matches or hanging out with the guys. Most importantly, if he demands space to think, leave him alone!
Share with the ladies you know and the ones you don’t know. #StayBlessed
AlyssaLashown “Does he really want to be left alone”
Stina Caxe “When guys say they want to be left alone do they really mean it?”
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