I was watching CNN and the remarkably inspiring story of Sara Blakely caught my attention. She is the founder of Spanx who started her business with $5,000 in savings and became the youngest self-made female billionaire in history. She explained how her father followed Wayne Dyer’s guidance of teaching his children the power of failing big. Each day, her father would ask..”so what did you fail at today.” And if there were no failures, Dad would be disappointed. Focusing on failing big allowed Sara to understand that failure is not an outcome, but involves a lack of trying, not stretching yourself far enough out of your comfort zone. Failing big is a good thing.
What is the difference between champions and the average person?
Tom Hopkins says, “The single most important difference between champion achievers and average people is their abiity to handle rejection and failure.”
Even as a young boy (I am sure many guys will have experienced this), you see this same girl you like but the fear of rejection stops you from approaching her. This cowardly habit continued over a long period of time until I became the last of my friends to kiss a girl, then one day I got angry.
Enough is Enough jarey, the worst she can say is NO, Sorry, Bye or simply walk away. she can’t slap me, she can’t pluck my eyes out, she can’t remove my teeth. Only then did I accept failing as a stepping stone not a stumbling block in the journey of getting my dream girl.
You are about writing an exam, will the fear of failing not make you write the exam?
You are about proposing to your girlfriend, would the fear of her saying NO make you not propose?
You are entering a relationship, will they fear of past relationship heartbreaks make you live a single life forever?
The problem is not in the falling, the problem is not getting up. Mistakes are often the best teachers. Oswald Avery advises, “Whenever you fall, pick something up.”
Known for his successes not his failures Thomas Edison reflected, “People are not remembered by how few times they failed, but by how often they succeed.”
Louis Boone said, “don’t fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things. The saddest summary of life contains three descriptions, could have, might have and should have.”. Robert Schuller wrote, “Look at what you have left, never look at what you have lost.”
Has failure gone to your head?
“Why Ask Why” by John Mason